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How do women do it? What is  it ? Everything. I mean, women I meet, seem to haveit all: jobs, families, nice clean houses, husbands, friends, great children  youget the picture. I have all of this, but I am a mess. Well, I almost have this-the house is never clean, I am stressed at work, nothing ever seems good enough formy children, etc. Now, donÂ't get me wrong. I am very thankful for all I have in mylife; it is just that I wish I could manage it better. I just feel like I need morethan 24 hours in a day to accomplish what needs to be done for my familyÂ's lives torun smoothly.
See, I have always stated that I want my children to be happy. That was my primarygoal in life. I feel like I have been doing a good job at it, but I really wantedthem to live in a clean, organized house, and that is the one thing I was not ableto give them as I tried to balance work and running a home.
What really gets me is that no other mother I meet seems to have the same feelings. They all seem to have it together. I go to their houses and the yard is nice, thehouse is decorated beautifully, the house is clean, everything is in its place, andthey have snacks and dinner under control. At holidays, decorations adorn the yardand house.
Do they ever sleep? Where do women find the time to get everything done?
Maybe their husbands help. In my house, I have to think of everything, exceptpaying of the bills (which is another story and stress causing subject). When mychildren were born, I thought we would share responsibilities. I soon found outthat my husband will do anything I ask of him, but I had to think of everything.
I wonder if men understand exactly what we women are expected to do each day. Fromthe minute we wake up, we have running through our heads what the childrenÂ's needsfor the day are and how we can accomplish them, what our job will need from us andhow we are going to accomplish each task well, what dinner will be and how to makesure we have the ingredients, what tests or projects need worked on and whatsupplies will be needed, what activities are that day and how to juggle car pool,when to go shopping for the outfit our child needs for a certain activity, and thelist goes on and on. We  good wives try to include our husbands by telling themwhen activities are so they are good fathers and show up. We tell them all of thenews of the day about their children so they can feel a part of their lives.
Now, I know men have different thoughts running through their heads, such asproviding enough for their families, but that is an article that a man shouldwrite-this one is about women.
I grew up with a liberal, single mother who told me I could be anything I wanted tobe. There was Gloria Steinham telling me that I could have it all: job, family,and be a wife. I grew up knowing that I could. I just needed to go to college, geta good job, meet a wonderful man, have a family, and I would be happy. I knew itwas true and I worked very hard at achieving these goals.
I went to college, met a man, fell in love, got a job, and had a wonderful family;one boy and one girl, just as planned.
What nobody talks about is how hard it is going to be. The big question is: Why? I have met many people in my situation, but nobody talks about how hard it is. If Iwould broach the subject, I got funny looks, because of course they have it all andmake it run very smoothly. I would always walk away feeling like there wassomething wrong with me. I began to keep all my frustrations bottled up, which isnot a healthy thing to do.
After much thought, crying spells, meditation, and praying, I decided to make achange in my life. I decided that I needed to be home, so I could get my life andmy familyÂ's life under control. The only problem was that we could not afford forme to quit my job. Where would the money come from? I decided to run my ownbusiness. I looked at many different opportunities and decided that since I lovedbeing on the internet that I would learn how to make money online. Oh my, that isthe subject for another article; the foreign language of the web and internet tonewbies. Anyway, after trying to understand how to design a website and orderingevery course I could find (mostly junk), I found the perfect home business, whereall of the things I was trying to learn how to do, was already done for me, EmeraldPassport. Plus, I was given incredible support and training. I have learned somuch about how to make money with the internet. I feel like I could write a book onwhat not to do or buy if you want to make money online. Internet marketing is afascinating phenomenon. I continue to learn daily, and love it. I am making friendsall over the world and plan to meet a lot of them in Panama in February.
I can now stay at home and deal with all of the  stuff that always seemed to get inthe way of my family living a balanced, less stressful life. I now have the time toget the housework done, pick up the  stuff everywhere and try to find a place forit, run my children to their activities, watch their games, remember what needs tobe done when, help with homework, etc. I am also home in the mornings with mychildren. In the past, it was really sad when my daughter would call me at work andask for me to stay on the phone while she took a shower because she was scared beinghome alone. Not any more. I can run to the school when my daughter forgets herpicture money or skirt for field hockey. I am at every activity and drive to all oftheir practices. All without feeling exhausted.
I am real happy for the people who can balance a job, house, kids, husband, friends,and do it beautifully. I respect and admire them. But, for those of us that feellike tearing their hair out trying to get everything that needs to be done in oneday accomplished, there is an alternative  starting a home business.
I am not saying it is stress free or does not take work, any job takes work. But, Ilove what I do and am making a lot of friends in the process. Since startingEmerald Passport, the stress in my life has gone down so much. I can now enjoy myfamily and my life as a whole. I know that owning your own business is not foreveryone, but it sure has been a life saver for me. Life should be enjoyed, and Iam glad I can now present a more relaxed, put together mother to my children andalways be there for them.
I would love to hear from other women who are experiencing the same frazzled livesand what they feel about it. I would also love to hear from women who  have it all and are making it work and how they are doing it. Please email me with yourthoughts and feelings on  How Do Women Do It? Maybe I will take all of theresponses and write a book, so we can acknowledge each other and not feel so aloneon this subject. And, hopefully, women will write in and teach all of us theknowledge they have gained on making their homes and jobs run smoothly.
HereÂ's to celebrating the most Powerful beings on Earth  Women!
